Joe Bower - collaborative problem solving - drilling down for concerns

Drilling down for concerns so we have the kid's concerns which are accurate and relevant is vital for successful problem solving. Kids often shut down because they don't have the words to express their concerns or they have not given much thought to define them  or simply they don't trust the collaborative problem solving process and feel it is just a new way of only care givers have their concerns addressed .

Below is a blog post that describes the questions we may ask in the drilling down process ,  and  2 blog posts by a teacher Joe Bower who shares his cps experience with 2 kids. Joe Bower's teaching philosophy fits in well with the CPS approach to discipline and socio-moral learning.  As Deborah Meier says – teaching is more about listening, learning is more about talking. We need input from our kids so we can identify their concerns and hear about the meaning they make about the world around   them.

http://allankatz-parentingislearning.blogspot.co.il/2011/04/i-dont-know-drilling-down-for-concerns.html

http://www.joebower.org/2012/06/collaborative-problem-solving-with.html

                         

 http://www.joebower.org/2012/05/collaborative-problem-solving-in.html

http://allankatz-parentingislearning.blogspot.co.il/2012/01/collaborative-problem-solving-drilling.html    - drilling down by tabling 

Allan

Collaborative problem solving - Capacitar emergency kits

Many approaches to children's challenges focus on helping kids deal with emotional stress so that they can think straight. Collaborative problem solving helps kids to think straight so that they avoid emotional stress.

However , when we as parents or our kids are stressed out with an onslaught of negative thoughts, it is impossible to use ' thinking ' , no matter how positive to change our negative thought patterns and relieve our stress.

We need to first use ' Mindfulness' -  see mindfulness for kids 2 , Coping Skills and other techniques mentioned in the Capacitar Emergency Kit to clear our minds and prepare them to engage in creative thinking and collaborative problem solving.

The Emergency Kit was Capacitar's response to the trauma of Hurricane Katrina. The kit includes simple basic practices taught by Capacitar to empower people to deal with the stress of challenging situations. Practices include: Tai Chi, Finger holds, EFT, The Holds, Head-Neck-Shoulder Release, and Acupressure points for stress, crisis and depression.

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