Collaborative problem solving is about thinking , using hindsight, foresight, reflection, planning, problem solving etc.
We all , and especially kids need time to think and reflect.
Kids may also not have the words to articulate their concerns or share information about a problem that is not on the tip of their tongues. After our initial inquiry on the empathy step = gathering information about the kid's concerns … ' I have noticed that …...when….. , what's up ? or asking for elaboration or clarification – ' can you tell me more ?'
We can add ' Please take your time , there is no hurry "
see the video clip Silence = time to think
When we talk with kids , they should do the speaking and we the listening , directing the conversation conversation with dialog questions. We need to be patient and give kids time to think.
When we do speak , we can ' pause ' a lot , giving kids time to take in the information , process it and even using ' consequential or sequential thinking ' to predict or suggest answers as to what comes next.
In a blog article Carol Subramani Pause that makes all the difference
shows how using pause can promote reflection and thinking. The pause - should become part of our vocab, an essential part of conversation.
Let us all take some to time to pause, think and reflect before we respond.