tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6605813304666153695.post2686257457225909917..comments2023-10-30T07:53:07.227-07:00Comments on Parenting is Learning: (Constructive) criticism , blame , cps and sdtAllanKatzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01832588840708909428noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6605813304666153695.post-86901420405975089722010-11-07T10:02:53.097-08:002010-11-07T10:02:53.097-08:00Rosanna,
My understanding is that from all the pa...Rosanna, <br />My understanding is that from all the parenting approaches I know CPS is not all manipulative like the others <br /><br />here are some video clips of the process <br />http://allankatz-parentingislearning.blogspot.com/2010/08/cps-videos.html<br /><br />Alfie Kohn often says that it matters not what we teach but what they learn. Often the message they take home with them is completely different to what we said. Parenting in my humble opinion is about dealing with perceptions. When we Say the truth to a kid I fear he will hear something else. The truth that I want kids to hear , is those inner core values deep down inside of them and it is our job to help them connect with them.<br />I discuss your concerns further in my next blog<br />Thanks for your commentAllanKatzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01832588840708909428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6605813304666153695.post-80810514166664337272010-11-06T20:18:59.300-07:002010-11-06T20:18:59.300-07:00No doubt they are more likely to respond positivel...No doubt they are more likely to respond positively to such a request than admit they are to blame. This is not the point.<br /><br />The point is, when they are indeed to blame should we fool them with pretty words and manipulate them into behaving the way we want or give them some loving honesty instead?<br /><br />I'd rather be honest and not get much out of them then having to manipulate them in order to get what I want.Rosannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11402363843865246292noreply@blogger.com