tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6605813304666153695.post1195015453109794827..comments2023-10-30T07:53:07.227-07:00Comments on Parenting is Learning: Rewards - CPS , SDTAllanKatzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01832588840708909428noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6605813304666153695.post-9215159410642267372011-02-08T00:34:58.973-08:002011-02-08T00:34:58.973-08:00Okapi- Yes- rewards are part of the natural conse...Okapi- Yes- rewards are part of the natural consequences of what we do or the outcomes of our goals and plans. The problem is when we use rewards to control or manipulate people or what matters in life is what you get , achievement and outcomes and not the process.<br /><br />Nicolas - Praise is problematic when the message is one of control - you have done well what I want from you. Praise which helps kids to reflect on the impact they make and focus on their feelings of pride and not doing things just to please others is positive for a kid - it is feedback and encouragementAllanKatzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01832588840708909428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6605813304666153695.post-4185980984560917122011-01-09T23:05:17.610-08:002011-01-09T23:05:17.610-08:00I think that rewards are to some extant natural in...I think that rewards are to some extant natural in life. If you don't dress appropriately for a job interview you are not likely to get the job-so while the style of dress might not be intrinsically rewarding to you you do so to get the job of getting the reward. You also might find the job you get intrinsically rewarding or you may find that the reward is simply getting the paycheck.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13098856417656550914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6605813304666153695.post-83181178283868256972010-10-04T00:15:13.900-07:002010-10-04T00:15:13.900-07:00Great article Allan! However, I'm not sure tha...Great article Allan! However, I'm not sure that trying to achieve intrinsic motivation for ALL desirable behaviours is a realistic goal. Children find it easier to be intrinsically motivated, but I don't think it's possible to be intrinsically motivated to do everything we do as adults.<br /><br />Also, you seem to talk about rewards as if they were always tangible (candy, money etc.). There are other kinds of rewards, such as praise, that have different effects on motivation, and are worth investigating.Nicolas Connaulthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07662316234065298632noreply@blogger.com